Do you know how to relax?
Many of us don’t and relaxation to many means different things. Whichever is your chosen method I suggest ensuring that you are not disturbed whether it be in the form of technology or even indeed people (and pets!).
For some relaxation can occur daily, such as having a bath or reading to others is that monthly massage, reflexology or facial appointment and to others, it will be a weekend spa retreat that happens just once a year.
But should we be doing more?
That is something only you can answer.
The Power of Relaxation
As I mentioned, relaxation can mean different things to different people, but my suggestion is to try and do something daily but mindfully, almost having the intention of that “I am doing this for me, for no one else but me”. This could be the dog walk, yes you are doing a “chore” but just take a moment to breathe the air deeply, notice what is around you and know that you will feel better afterwards for getting fresh air and time out.
If your thing is reading a book then be sure to make this time out valuable to you, if you read because your other half is watching something on TV, why not take yourself off to a different room and read, or have a bath and read, slip into something snuggly and know that this time is for you. I have many people visit me on a monthly basis for time out and to help relax them, I always suggest doing things (in this case relaxation) little and often in order to help promote the work I do and also for themselves.
Ways to Help You Relax
Have you tried breathing lately? Silly question but although we all do it, day in and day out, we don’t always recognise the healing properties of breathwork. Just stop as you’re reading this, and take a long, deep breath to the count of 10. Stop, and exhale SLOWLY. The act of concentrating on your breathing slows everything down, and if you do this for just a few minutes you’ll be mastering a very basic meditation technique.
Meditate on Life
If you thought that meditation it was all about Buddhist temples, incense and hours of silent contemplation, you’d be wrong. You can start a meditative practice by just being mindful – being aware of your surroundings, even your body.
One good meditation, if you have time, is to focus on a part of your body at a time; for example, how do your toes feel right now? Relaxed or tense? Warm, cold? Are they enclosed in footwear or bare?
Work your way along your body, breathing slowly in and out as you go. Take it further by using one of the many free visualisation and meditation downloads available and spend a few minutes focussing on YOU. Apps like headspace or calm can be really beneficial for more daily short guided moments.
Get a Massage
Massage and the power of touch are incredibly relaxing. Our bodies crave touch and human contact or even contact with a pet. If you don’t have a pet or a pet human to give you a soothing back rub or relax your shoulders when you feel stressed out. You should never have to go without a massage when you need one, and so find yourself a great massage therapist and relax with the touch of their healing hands.
If you work indoors, chances are that you skip lunch. I know so many clients that are desk workers, not only does this often mean they do not get enough vitamin D but they also east “aldesko” and don’t get outside out anywhere near nature for most of your working day?
The outdoors is a natural relaxant and getting some green space is a sure-fire way to calm down any stressful feelings. If you live or work near a park, beach or river, get yourself down there as often as possible and breathe in that fresh air. Beaches are especially good for calming and de-stressing, plus the sound of the waves and effects of the negative ions in the air really have a positive effect on many people.
How You Can Relax
My top suggestion is to try to do something every day for no one but yourself. It will do you good and you will feel better for doing it afterwards and in the long term, it will help you to feel more relaxed.
If you would like a massage, a facial or a reflexology session to help you feel relaxed, then get in touch with me today. If you would like to learn more about these therapies and what they involved, you can find out more on my Therapies page.